Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Potty training a part of sexual development

my son is just barely starting potty training. he knows what the potty is for and he sits on it once in a while and pretends to push out a big poop.
for years as a sexuality educator, i've been letting people know that potty training is a part of normal human sexual development. now, as a mom, i finally see exactly what i was talking about. it's the first time in our lives that there is such a focus on our genitals, and we, as children, are aware of it. i can see how some parents who are uncomfortable saying "penis" or "vulva" or "vagina" would make up words, because there is no way to potty train without saying something. as uncomfortable as it may feel at first, i strongly advocate for using correct terminology when referring to our children's genitals. the earlier you start, the more natural it will seem, both for you and your children. children learn at an early age that important things have names. teaching them about all of their body parts lets them know that their whole body is valued.
i'm happy to report that my son knows that pee comes from penis and poop comes from anus. now if he could get it in the potty, that would really be something.

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